One Of Those Moments...I Love You

I Love You

Love occurs everyday. Sometimes we notice it, and sometimes we don't. It is when you realize it is happening that makes the moment special.  Sadly there are many moments we miss. They pass us, never to return exactly the same. We go on living never noticing they passed.  This post is for the moment(s) we notice. More specifically, the moment I noticed.

I'm married to a wonderful man. Even on a day where he makes me want to kick a hole in the wall, he's still a wonderful man. I have my moments where I drive him crazy. In life, and definitely in marriage, we all should be allowed a few free passes. At some point we will do something that bothers our spouse; though hopefully, most of the time spent together incorporates laughter, smiles, kisses, touch (in more than one manner), and vocal communication (sexy time is a non-mentioned-but-must-always-be-included pass time).  Back to my original statement...I married a wonderful man. I love him with every ounce of my existence; and I thank God for putting him in my life.

This is my gorgeous husband. 

This is the moment, the scene if you will...

I walk in the door from a finished day of work. I close the door behind me and Nick, my husband, has a big smile on his face to welcome me home. He approaches me as I place my things on the floor. Hugs are exchanged along with kisses. We move to the couch to sit down and chat about our days. As I'm talking he licks my face. He just licks my face!! So what do I do? I lick him back. Then the lick war begins. Spit is flying, our heads are bobbing (trying to get good angles), and we're laughing the whole time. As the tongue war moves to an end, I look at my husband. I admire him and all his ridiculousness. My thought going through my head...I Love You!!! I DO I DO I DO! Thank you for being a goober with me. You're a great husband.
 
Realize the moments. Each and every one. Enjoy them. Embrace them. Encourage them.

Yes I do!

  

Marriage Material...Reading Material That Is

Unless you've been living under a rock for the past few decades, it's no secret that the divorce rate is lingering around a sky high 65%. Too high if you ask me. The common problem...no one seems to be doing anything about it. So, what can we do. I hope we all agree that marriage is something worth keeping, today, tomorrow, and forever. That's not to say that everyday is sunflowers and candy, but when those days happen, they kick the thunderstorms right out of your mind.

Most importantly, remember why you married your spouse, if you can't, make up a reason and go with it. You decided to say "I Do", don't turn back now because you wish you could go on vacation alone. Give your spouse a chance to enjoy you and to be enjoyed.

It is common to see a husband and wife treating each other worse than they treat anyone else, this is a big no-no. They need to be the person you treat the best: with respect, love, laughter, and thoughtfulness. Also, don't forget they are your God-given sexual partner, so let them be and no one else.  Some reading material that will remind you how to treat your spouse can be found in the Love Dare. Sometimes life gets busy, but don't forget to treat your spouse well. This book covers many topics that will put your spouse back on their pedestal. Where they should be in your eyes.

If you want to watch a movie, I recommend Fireproof. The film has a positive outlook on marriage and  it values the importance of the husband and wife relationship. It is a great reminder for you and your spouse to see.

Other great and helpful readings are: The 5 Love Languages, Sacred Marriage, Sheet Music: Uncovering Sexual Intimacy

Remember...be a spouse worth loving, admiring, and respecting. Because it is hard to give something to someone who doesn't deserve it.

No one wants their marriage to look like this!